I find that it’s sometimes hard to explain to people why I need to carve out time for writing. That unless you’re a professional that has made a lot of money or garnered a lot of attention people tend to think of writing- even subconsciously- as more of a hobby, something you can jump in and out of on whims. Doorbell rings, you can hop up and get it; pets need attention, dinner needs doing, errands need running? No worries, it’s thought that you can hop out of your own personal world and hop back in just as easily. The people around you don’t mean to lessen the importance of your writing time, they simply don’t understand what it’s like trying to put yourself in a new surrounding, a new life, a new headspace, and don’t understand that that’s what happens every time you go to write.
My husband for example, is the most encouraging and most devoted to my career as an author. He gave me the courage and the ability to devote my time to writing instead of letting it fall to the wayside while I spent 40 hours a week at a full time job. But my husband also works from home and when all those things I mentioned above happens, it’s me that the duty falls to. And he doesn’t do it intentionally, and he doesn’t do it because he thinks his job is more important (though I’ll be the first to admit that it is, him being the main breadwinner and all), he does it because to him, it’s easier for me to hop in and out of writing as easily as I do with reading or watching a tv show. And I understand that he’s never been where I am, he’s never experienced what it is to write in an entirely different world and the focus that needs.
That’s why it’s so important to make sure you block that writing time out, and it’s going to be up to you and you alone to enforce that to those around you. It took me a while to figure out a balance between homemaker, pet mom, and recently, getting married and moving halfway across the country, but I finally did it! It doesn’t work out every day, and then there’s some days I luck out and I get the whole day to devote to writing. The trick I’ve learned for my life, is planning and sticking to your guns. I’ve made it routine that errands and chores get done in the morning, and writing gets done in the evening. If anyone needs anything from me, they need to let me know ahead of time, or understand that I’ll get to it when I have a stopping point in my progress. Again, it doesn’t always work out; things come up, family stops by to hang out, and honestly, some days the words just won’t come out right. But it’s a habit I’ve stuck to long enough that the people in my life don’t take lightly when I’m in the middle of my ‘writing time’.